Whenever we try to start something we’re not good at – whether it’s exercising, watching our diet, learning a new language, dating – the list goes on – we face the problem of feeling unmotivated. We know we should be working on these things, but our brain starts coming up with all kinds of excuses. “I probably don’t want it that much, otherwise I would definitely have all those things; I have bad genetics, so I’ll never look like my skinny friends, etc.” I used to know a girl who didn’t want to join the gym despite being unhappy with her body image, because she “didn’t want to get too muscly and start looking manly”…
But are the grapes really sour?
The thing is we DO want to achieve those things – otherwise we wouldn’t be thinking about them all the time. The sooner you accept it – the sooner you will get control of your life.
Motivation is not the reason – it’s the RESULT. The better you get at something the more your motivation grows. Seeing progress in your work gives you a confidence boost and increases your desire to continue your efforts, while failing decreases your motivation and leads to frustration.
If you plan just to sit around and wait for motivation to strike you – it simply won’t happen. Imagine after years of doing nothing you suddenly felt motivated to train like a professional athlete 4+ hours a day 7 days a week? You would end up in a hospital before you were through with your first week. This is a natural survival mechanism in your body. It protects you from rushing into things and breaking your neck (figuratively or literally).
So don’t wait for any crazy motivation. Whatever motivation you have right now is ENOUGH. Start with small steps, don’t try and scale the whole mountain right away. Recognize every tiny achievement, accept your failures and let them go. Success is nothing but maintaining momentum.
Don’t worry about tomorrow. Don’t worry about what will happen in one year or even one month. Focus on what you can do today.
Love, Abbey xx 🙂